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Salvador Escobar opinion
"Cheating Wives Feel Little Guilt Over Sexual Affairs"
A more accurate statement is that women rarely feel guilt about infidelity, period.
Women, in fact, feel entitled to do it when they decide to take that route. Usually the reasons are emotional, irrational, and petty in origin. Common excuses for such horseshit are unavailability (usually because the partner is working to support the woman in question, not to mention kids), to prove a point, upgrading, and just plain nastiness. It nevers ceases to amaze me to profound amount of arrogance, immaturity and false entitlement that abounds in the actions of women when they chose to do this. Women may have the larger brains, but they also have the tiniest of integrity, logic, and class when it comes to being faithful, among other things.
Rather than clearly voice concerns as an adult would, women will often resort to hints, signals, and mindgames to justify cheating. Then when the secret's out, any woman will act like a child that's been told no at a toy store. Of course, we can't forget the insanity label that women are good for placing on others when they've been outed and their shit causes pain on the other party or parties. It's just sickening that women profess to be so much more ahead of men and yet are the equals of a toddler with Down Syndrome when it comes to dealing with any sort of personal responsibility.
Somebody who doesn't feel guilt, regret or remorse over hurting/betraying
somebody they supposedly love...in fact doesn't love that person at all. If
they did their conscience wouldn't let them rest easy with what they did.
Ali
<<Comment Somebody who doesn't feel guilt, regret or remorse over
hurting/betraying somebody they supposedly love...in fact doesn't love that
person at all. If they did their conscience wouldn't let them rest easy
with what they did.>>
Ali -
As one woman told me today, men are replaceable. Maybe they feel that way
when they cheat(they do).
But Tommy did they confess to their husband or boyfriend what they did? Or
did they suffer thru the depression and nervous breakdowns because they hid
the infidelity?
Ali -
sometimes if it aint broke in most ways and a little broke only in one way,
you need a spanner to fix it, take the heat off it or unlock it all
together! If a man is working hard and his wife feels neglected, then the
man's 50% at fault for not keeping his eye on the ball, no matter how hard
he works - basically he needs a gameplan! If he's not asking the right q's
it s a communication problem both ways - stop blaming others for taking the
wife! It's 50% your own problem!!!!!
Doc -
I have worked with quite a few men who were unfaithful but blamed their
partner for the infidelity. I don't know if I could put it into
percentages, but when people say 'mostly her own fault' and 'almost
completely her fault' sounds higher than 50% to me.
I hate to tell you buddy, but the nonsense that you posted above is exactly
the same reasons given by men when they cheat. Get real. Cheaters, male
or female, often take leave of their senses/morals and enter the so-called
"fog of infidelity" wherein they come up with justifications for behavior
that they know to be unjustifiable.
A woman I once knew who cheated during her marriage. Was a huge proponent
of arranged marriage's. She was from Russia and I think an arranged
marriage frees the people involved of any guilt over an affair. The
marriage is a set up, they don't love each other and reap the benefits of
being married. She got divorced of course, but blamed her husband for being
lazy. She felt no remorse over her affairs and felt her husband not making
enough money had more value in the marriage then monogamy. It makes no
sense, but I think that's how people rationalize cheating. It's not my
fault, it's my partners.
". It makes no sense, but I think that's how people rationalize cheating.
It's not my fault, it's my partners"
honestly, i caught my wife cheating on me with a coworker. she was being
very cautious with her phone, and I did a google search and bought a Sim
Spy from a website called proofpronto.com for like $130. i found all kinds
of stuff, but the worst was the constant text messages she was sending back
and fourth from this guy while they were at work together. they were having
sex in the bathroom, going to lunch together, you name it.
John if you hire a PI maybe you can get some solid evidence that will hold
up in court as proof of the infidelity. Otherwise I have a sinking feeling
she will still feel entitled to clean you out. Protect your neck.
I agree with Ali. Hiring a private investigator is a great way to protect
yourself in any relationship. If the judge strongly considers the info,
you might have a chance in court, hopefully.
You have to have that paperwork and proof in order, otherwise some simp of
a judge (or worse, a female judge) is going to take it easy on her and
still hold you legally and financially responsible for her in some way
going forward.
Although there is no excuse for cheating, it occurs for a reason--that may
be just lacking morals and adventurousness, or more likely it is due to
something lacking in the primary relationship. Unfortunately, those that
suggest that the marriage should always be saved are unrealistically
optimistic. I am an optimist most of the time, but there are times when
one has to realize that it just ain't gonna work. Coming from a family
with no divorce (yes, not one), this is an extremely hard journey, but one
I know I have to take. The marital relationship is not always the best
course for everyone. Cheating is hard and hurts everyone, but a loveless
marriage hurts, too.
My heart got broken pretty badly some time ago.. I thought my world had
come to an end when my husband told he was leaving me. I found great help
from one book, which described ways to get over bad feelings created by
problems in a relationship / ending of relationship. The idea was that we
can "teach" our brain to think in a different, more constructive way during
times of crisis, in similar fashion as we can teach our bodies to move in
new ways, for example when learning to dance... So instead of being "slave"
to my brain and emotions, I can learn to block negative, unwanted feelings
related for example to cheating etc before those feelings crush me. I can
say that this new attitude literally saved my life..! In the end of that
book there was a "Survival package"- section, with tips and instructions of
how to live on day-to-day basis first few weeks after emotional crisis like
cheating or breakup.... That really helped me, since I was a total wreck
after I learned about my husbands affair.... I just could not function.
Women think of love differently then men. Women will stay with men who
cheat for years thinking "He loves me best". These women spend the best
part of there life in these relationships never learning. You can talk to
them and try and get them to think about the situation, but they only get
angry at you. Your ruining their fantasy. What is just as sad is that many
men try and help the woman in the situation only to get hurt by the woman.
It's best for men to leave these women alone or try and exploit them for
something. Women like this are emotional wrecks and will fall for any
gimmick a guy can come up with. Some women just want to be used and abused.
My FWW, after ending a 5-month sexual affair, said she was sorry she hurt
me. She never has said she was sorry for cheating on me. If I had never
found out, she'd still likely be in the affair, happy as a clam with both
her hubby and her lover.
After some more research into why women cheat or date married men. I have
found that most, as in 99% of the women had no father, step father or their
own father cheated on her mother. Now my theory is that a little girl
adores her father and imprints on him how a man should be. She wants his
love more then anything in the world. When the father leaves her mother for
another woman the girl feels that he does not lover her or her mother. When
the father has affairs the little girl thinks her father loves those women
more then herself or her mother. Being that a girl wants her fathers love
she will (over time) become the type of woman she feels her father would
want. The girl will have affairs with married men because her dad was a
cheater and she wants to be like those women. Most women cheat because they
want the love of their cheating father. Women would have no guilt over this
because they have rationalized the reasons for cheating. "My dad loves me
now"
What is sad about all this is that men have affairs out of a need for
sex. Love has very little to do with it. This is a mistake many women make
when having sex with men. A man does not need to feel love to have sex.
Woman can to, but a future with that man is always at the back of her mind.
It explains why women get so blind during an affair. Tend to get angry at
the other woman rather then the man. Men who cheat manipulate a woman's
feeling for wanting love from their father. Do they know they are doing
this? I'd say no, they just accidentally trigger this in women.
My wife left me for a married millionaire. She does not know guilt. She has
never said she was sorry. She is a sociopath. I got closure on that portion
of my life when I read "The Sociopath Nextdoor". The only problem with that
book is it is written by a woman who seemingly thinks all sociopaths are
men. In fact, the affliction crosses both sexes.
Most of us live the good life so when we die we go to heaven. When a
sociopath is in complete control of their life and the lives of those
around them, they are in heaven.
Catchum.......I did. I tracked my cheating ... with a cool gps vehicle
tracking device from www.gpsspousetracking.com/
Women really don't feel guilty about cheating. Some do but those are
usually the ones that love their man but is just not satisfied. I guess
they think they can have fun too.
Why is it that women rarely feel guilt about infidelity? I'm curious to
understand why.
I cheated during a marriage and ended the marriage because of it. I am more
depreesed now then i have ever been and i deserve it. what i did was awful
and there is no excuse for it. My feelings of guilt will always be with me
and at the same time I wish i would have listened to them and NEVER had an
affair. it ruined a marriage a family and I am sure has permanatly damaged
my children. I HATE myself for what I did and what it caused that is all
The mind has all sorts of self-protective mechanisms. If a woman's done
something unpleasant and feels uncomfortable about it she will manufacture
some self-exculpatory justification for her own behaviour, usually along
the lines of :- "If he'd treated me as he should have done it would never
have happened" etc. That will make her feel better. That's what it's all
about. Feeling not thinking. Shift the blame. Lie to yourself. Feel good.
Nothing else is as important as you - certainly not that bastard who forced
you into that affair (etc., etc., etc.).
I want to read a excerpt from my journal that I wrote after I found out of
my wife of 6 months was having a affair. Corrie we both know what happened
with your first husband Mitch and how you needed me. Now we are in this
mess and you needed lucas to deal with me. I can only say to you dont wimp
out on fear of seemingly being to needyin the moment. Break this caustic
cycle. As I wake up in a pool of my own sweat screaming I have to say to
you " A needy person does not know how to love, they take prisoners of
love. I am your prisoner " :(
