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Why do sex and passion seem to fade, even when two people love each other? (80 reads)
Answer:
It may be the dilemma of modern relationships: reconciling security and adventure, eroticism and domesticity -- in the same place. "It is sometimestoo much closeness that stifles desire, not distance between you. Fire needs air," says Esther Perel, a couples and family therapist and author ofMating In Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic. And "eroticism thrives on the mysterious, the novel, and the unexpected," Perel says. So break out of your comfort zone and try something new, or a little daring -- then see what your partner does in response!
I think passion can be in a long term relationship, it just takes some work
to keep it alive. Sometimes it is too easy to get into the "everyday mode"
and life just takes over. So it is important for couples to take that time
to feed the passion with each other.
Sex and passion are definition of something fascinating, fresh especailly
when no duties or
normalities are attached. Once a relationship gets "officail" it steps into
the sphere of
common societical behaviour. Nothing impressive or somehow "forbidden". A
marriage
institutionalize a private one-to-one secret into something
boring, conventional.
These are the first signs of a dying relationship in terms of sex and
passion.Apart
form this a marriage means practically caring for the
other,duties,planning all kind of
stuff that decreases the sexual emotions once harbored when one thought of
the
other.This is another reason shy marriages are no more a success like
they use to be.
Sexual fantasies and emotional demands vs pressure and insitutionalized
marriage are
fighting for attention.
A great article about relationship I wrote with a female friend read on
http://www.activagers.com suggests a break-up to give room for both
partners find out what they really want
first.Cinfidence and respect are summarized as most important to make it
work in or outside
the marriage.
Phil
