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Using each other 40
Is it really using a person if they each get something out of it? I believe that bad boys know they aren't good relationship material. They make every effort to keep women at a distance. With that being the case, is it wrong for a woman to "use" a bad boy for fun and excitement and a nice guy for a long lasting, committed relationship? Look at it this way. If I needed my taxes done, would I see a grocer or would I see an accountant? An accountant, right? I would be using the accountant because of what I get out of him/her. And is that wrong? No, because that's what they are there for.
As far as justifying my actions, I don't need to justify anything. It's really a simple matter of how the world works - how the game is played. Once the game is understood, then I can be a better player. If I want to be with a bad boy for fun and excitement, then that's between me and him now isn't it? And if I want to be with a nice guy for a committed relationship, then that's between me and him, too, isn't it? Just because the facts sound atrocious doesn't mean that they aren't true.
We are told that women cannot feel attraction for a nice guy but only for
the bad boy. When she commits to a long term relationship with a nice guy
she still craves sex with the bad boy and will want to cheat with him. Is
this fair to the nice guy? That's not a good game. The nice guy is only a
walking wallet. Is this atrocious?
will said, "A girl told me that she wanted a "Nice guy" but was sexually
attracted to "Bad boys". She states that when girls are young they go with
what they FEEL more then what they NEED. More importantly they go with the
sexual feelings almost always when they are young. When they get older then
they go for the "Nice guy" because they know they can settle down with them
cause they're more responsible and suited for marriage."
Guys I think you should ask yourself if you want a woman who would use a
guy for what he is good for and then leave him for another. Then ponder the
wisdom (or lack thereof) of acting in such a way to attract a woman like
that....
Good point Joker. Did you guys ever think about that 9 times out of 10 if a
woman cheats it's usually because the man is not giving her something she
needs. Maybe he's lacking in something and that's why she's cheating. When
it comes to husbands and wives there's a lot that comes into play with them
because they are sharing a life (bills, kids, drama) when it's just dating
i think you're right, it's the excitement that comes along with the bad
boys and or the females own insecurities that makes her stick with him. And
yes it takes us women maturing and wanting something out of life to see
that it's the nice guys we really need.
