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The relationship Paradigm 86

posted Mon, 07/21/08

alexei.kirillov

i once made once a test among my friends to check a statement of the infamous neil strauss. the question was: "if you didn't have to worry about having children and if you didn't need someone to take care of you when you are older, would you still get married?". the response was amazing! the cynics will have guessed the answer. the results: majority of the men said no, and the majority of the women yes. this confirmed strauss' observation that the traditional relationship model is defined by a women's need, not a man's.

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1. Dave left...
Mon, 07/21/08 7:06 pm

Caution: Never listen to what a woman says. Instead watch what she does.


2. Woodsmen left...
Tue, 07/22/08 12:14 pm

Neil Strauss and the whole PUA community is tried and true information. They aren't just spewing out tricks and routines. Well some do, but for the most part it is group of men (myself included) who just want to know why they fail with women over and over. The questions they ask and raise are fact based. These guys went out and figured it out by trial and error. They found that supplicating to a woman will make you hated and laughed at. (Yes women laugh at men who approach them) It was found that women spend hours getting ready in the hope of one man finding a flaw and pointing it out. Doesn't matter how small. If a woman is all dressed up looking super hot and that one guy comes up and says. "Are those nails fake?". That shows the woman your not intimidated by her. She will need to work for your attention. It's easy for women to hear "Your pretty!" They hear it all day. The only way a man can say that is if he has already had sex with her and is in a relationship with her. Otherwise it's just noise to a woman. An annoying, buzzing, irritating noise.


3. rod left...
Tue, 07/22/08 3:24 pm

if you want the relashionship to last you must no weaken and start being nice. the moment you are nice to a woman you are in a relationship with she will start fithing with you causing harmony disruption,the reason women do this is because they want to know you are still in control,women perceive nicennes as weakness and can not feel protected,remember that technology moved much faster then our mating strategies.


4. rod left...
Tue, 07/22/08 3:56 pm

marriage and kids are selfish acts.


5. Ali left...
Tue, 07/22/08 5:34 pm

Are you talking about all women or dysfunctional women?

Do men act this way towards women who are nice/polite to them?


6. rod left...
Tue, 07/22/08 8:20 pm

ali i have never experienced a woman being nice and polite to me unless she wanted something .


7. Ali left...
Tue, 07/22/08 8:46 pm

Well maybe that is THEIR understanding of what NICE/POLITE means. Maybe this is why they turn their nose up at guys who are good to them; because the women themselves have ulterior motives when being nice they think this applies to everyone, so therefore in their mind every nice guy is automatically viewed with suspicion and mistrust whether this is warranted or not. Nevertheless how they treat people who are polite to them IMO is an important clue and may give you very important insight on them. Supposedly the guys who play this game of trying to get the woman to think such and such of them because they picked at her flaws are the honest ones? How so? If they were honest they wouldn't have to come up with these manipulative ways to get a woman's attention. Besides, they are choosing from a pool of women who are still stuck in the matrix.

Those who respond favorably to the game knowing it is a game are also playing a game themselves. Guys need to ask themselves do they want a game player for a woman or do they want an honest woman.


8. greasymadness left...
Wed, 07/23/08 8:33 am

I've asked a similar question to women aged 30 to 55 who I worked with. It basically amounted to whether or not they would want to be married if they were flush with cash. Out of 8, only one replied that she would still want to be married.

I'm not surprised that younger women would still have a preference for marriage. Once they figure out what a pain in the ass it can be to live with another person, and have to help them through their bullshit, they reassess their priorities. Who can blame them?


9. Ali left...
Wed, 07/23/08 5:15 pm

Well if that's how they feel about it, why should a man be willing to do for them what they are not willing to do for anyone else?