She's Critcal of My Sexual Performance 658

I'm only going to say this because I care for my fellow man.

W.T.F IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?

• You suggesting her to go out and have sex with someone else ain't right man.You should've asked her what you needed to do besides telling her to have sex with someone else man. That's just my opinion.

Yes don't be stupid. If she's Asian then she will be gone in a second to the new guy. Go and get a good viberator and use it on her. Fun Factory makes high quality ones that pulse and have all kinds of settings. Tell the sex store clerk that it's for your wife. The people who work at those places are really cool and will help you. Or just buy it on EBay or on-line. Amazon even sells the shit. Make her cum first and turn her on then let her climb on top to do you. Once she cums she should be turned on so much that she should do it again with you. Try oral and spell her name with your tongue to drive her nuts. Tie her up and use the viberator, but don't get her off for awhile make her beg for it. This is all pretty easy stuff to make her want you. Unless your Quakers, she should be fine with it. Spank her ass for now reason. Anything different. P.S. The women I used the viberators on wouldn't fuck me or date me. Nice huh? S.O.B!!!

I don't know why others are so freaked about that. I've more than once heard of this sort of thing and the wife gets herself a much younger lover whose a guy from say 18 to 22 or 23 whose got the sex drive and stamina to wear out a thirty something woman, but the young guy is not competition for the husband in any other way, and not even in that way since they aren't competing. In fact a lot of couples have open relationships, but often with strings attached like: Wife, you can go find any guy under 25 that you want, but not a guy older than that because I don't want competition as a husband or provider, but I don't mind you getting some gratification. I think the French invented that, but it's done all over the world, especially when the husband is much older than the wife, and she then hits her 30s, her sex drive peaks, and his is simultaneously dropped through the floor cause he's just hit his 40s or 50s. The OP didn't mention if his wife is much younger than him or not, but I wonder if she is. This even happens with same age couples in their mid to late 30s or 40s because the woman's sex drive is going up and his is coming down. It's even more a problem with age-gap married couples when she hits her 30s.

Anyhow, you problem is not unique and your proposed solution is one that some couples do use. However, if you did that, you might want to require the other guy be much younger than you so that he's not competition in other areas. i.e. - so your wife doesn't leave you for him, yet she gets satisfied.

On the other hand, that would be a very last resort to consider. I actually think it was very considerate of you to care enough about her to propose that idea. However, you aren't yet at a point to be needing such extreme measures. I think you can please her yourself.

The key is to give her more and better orgasms more often. That's about knowing how (knowledge) more than being a super stud or anything. i.e. -quality rather than quantity. However, to increase quantity, you need to exercise arobically to improve your endurance. Then, on a day when you want to do it like a bunny rabbit, skip excercising that day and you'll feel super energetic, hyper, and horny. Seriously. Then take it all out on her. Also, as another last resort, you might look into Viagra, or something like that. However, if you increase your arobic conditioning, that will help a lot and be good for your health.

Another thing: Learn to get the most from the arobic conditioning you have. When a man has an erection, his heart is pounding as fast as if he was jogging, even if he's just laying there doing nothing. Add the guy having to do the humping and moving and now his heart is going like he's sprinting. Even a middle aged guy in good shape can't keep that up very long. How long can you sprint?

With girl on top position, she's doing all the work and moving. You're just laying there. So your heart doesn't have to sprint to all the work. Now it only has jog to maintain the erection. So you can last much longer, and probably do it more times too.

Also, besides a penis, you've got 10 fingers and a tongue. I once gave a girl an orgasm by putting one index finger in her V and another in her A and masturbating both of them while sucking on a T. She had quite the orgasm and there wasn't even a penis invovled in that.

The key to giving her orgasms is to increase her stimulation. The key to that is to stimulate as many of her erogenous zones at the same time as possible. You've got one penis, two hands with 5 fingers each, a mouth and tongue. With some determination, practice, and coordination you can stimulate 4 of her erotic zones at the SAME TIME. The simultaneous stimulation of any two or more erotic zones at the same time is enough to give many women an orgasm. If you can increase that to stimulating 3 of her erogenous zones at the same time, it's almost a guarantee that she'll have a mind bending orgasm like she's never had before. However, it's possible for you to do 3 to 4 areas at once, especially if she helps. She has two hands after all. She should be rubbing herself wherever you're not. And don't forget to kiss her too.

List of female erogenous zones (that I know of anyway):

Somewhat sensitive: ear lobes, lips, face in general, neck

More sensitive: leg in general, but especially her inner thighs, buttocks, butt crack, vagina in general, breasts

Most sensitive: clitoris specifically, anus (almost as sensitive as clitoris), nipples, and actually perhaps her lips again here, though that might be more psychological

Try to stimulate all those at various times with hands and/or mouth/tongue and/or penis and as many of those SIMULTANEOUSLY at the same time as possible. The simultaneous thing is key. And for the grand finale, stimulate as many of the most sensitive ones as you can at the same time. Alternate that with a good pounding. During the pounding, you'll likely only be able to stimulate whatever you're screwing at the moment since you'll need your hands to hold onto her hips. You get the idea.

And use girl on top position as much of time as possible so you get some cardiovasular rest while still satisfying her. i.e. - it's actually a good position for you to rest up between times you pound her. The multiple, simultaneous stimulations of many areas can occur regardless of who's on top. And she should help in all this.

If you start arobically excercising and increase your cardio endurance, you'll be all the more able to do these things.

And if worse comes to worse, you don't even need an erection to get her off.

Now armed with the above knowledge, and some work ethic, you won't need a surrogate lover. Try that stuff. I actually do know what I'm talking about.

Ha. I know a few things. Suprising, huh? Try that stuff, it works.

One last after thought. If you do decide to giver her some anal stimulation along with other areas, she needs to go to the bathroom first, and you need to have some really good lubrication. Unless those 2 conditions are met, leave her anus alone.

One last thought. I observed my bad boy, ladies man, friend Bill get manicures. What in heck? I always thought that was not very manly and ridulous. I just didn't know enough to know that I didn't know. Then I had a GF who sent me to get a manicure. If a guy has a manicure... Isn't it obvious? If you have a manicure you won't cut or scratch her when you put your finger(s) wherever you put them. Then she doesn't have to worry about your sharp, jagged, fingernails or hang nails. Now honestly, I'm between GFs right now so I couldn't care less about getting a manicure. However, if you want to be a good lover, go get one. I'm sure plenty of bad boys will post that I'm a crazy wussy, but whatever. Bill always has a manicure and he gets more women than a toilet seat. He ain't no wussy. I just do it to be considerate to the woman. Bill does it for the same reason and he's a love 'em and leave guy. It's just a good idea, especially since it's your wife.

Wait a minute people. Once extracurricular penis starts coming into play things will get a lot more complicated. To assume that such a thing will not compromise the integrity of their marriage is ludacrous and naive. Sure, there are people who have "open marriages" but this is often more of a lopsided compromise than any real solution which leaves both husband and wife truly happy. There's lots of ways this guy can get his wife off without her having to go to another man. By suggesting such a thing though, he may have opened pandora's box. If they plan on respecting their marriage they should look into alternate methods of him pleasing her. Also, there are natural ways he can work on his stamina and potency and I don't mean by taking Viagra. He will need to research how to increase his penile function...there's certain herbs you can take, but IMO he should change his diet to a low fat one to cut down on any circulatory problems. I would suggest getting in shape overall as well. Know what your wife likes, and figure out ways to give it to her. You have to be creative too. Get good at cunnilingus and do this prior to intercourse, that might get her to "hurry up" to be more in synch with your orgasmic schedule. As was mentioned already, toys can be fun too. Anyway, all this just to say, you don't have to open up your marriage to other people to keep your spouse sexually satisfied.

Well, I don't think he has to resort to that (open marriage) anyway. My impression is that he has a lot of sexual potential within himself that he hasn't even begun to tap yet. I think he can get her done himself.

Since he can probably satisfy her himself with a combination of effort and know how, it would probably be most productive if people would focus their advice towards helping him do that, and never mind the open marriage issue. The open marriage thing becomes a non-issue once he's able to solve his own problem. Right?

Well I was never suggesting they do the open marraige thing in the first place. I just saw it discussed and IMO he can take care of her himself, with the right adjustements made.

Agreed

Jay, my man, it's called foreplay. If you cannot make actual intercourse go more than ten minutes you can't, although I don't think that's too bad at all. Many men would kill to be able to last ten minutes inside a woman. But there's a world of things you can do before and after that point. Toys, touching, foodplay, bondage, it's all good and acts to heighten the experience. And if you simply need to last longer check out kegel exercises for men.

The solution is actually very simple:

1) get good at eating her pussy 2) get good with using your hands to stimulate her 3) try #2 and #3 simulataneously before you try intercourse

You want her to be almost ready to pop her top by the time you put it in, that way she gets off before you do. Of course you can give her multiple orgasms before you finish, that's preferrable. If you have to use toys to see what she responds best to, why not? I just think it's a horrible idea to open up the marriage to other people. You dropped the ball big time by suggesting that to her this shows you can't handle her....why shouldn't you handle her? She's YOUR wife, it's your duty to be able make her come, not delegate the task to somebody else. Apparantly she must be doing something right for you to finish in 10 minutes so return the favor for her.

Typo....

That should read:

"3) try #1 and #2 simultaneously before you try intercourse"