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Nice guys are for talks but bad guys for sex 92
woodsman
Many women are really messed up when it comes to men they choose. It's like some women think it's ok to use a nice guy for the mental part of a relationship and then use the bad boy for the sex. I have been on the mental side many times. We do that to a woman and we are called users. Yet a woman does that and she claims there are no nice guys and everyone feels sorry for her. Does any body feel sorry for the nice guy? Hell no! we are whiners and complainers that need to change.
I have seen many "nice girls" stay with bad boys. They were so insecure and shy that they felt they could only get that one guy. These women were attractive, I even tried to ask one out (failed of course) She had a boyfriend, but I swore she was giving me the green light. She turned out to be really shy and had the same off and on boy friend for 10 years. She was very pretty yet she didn't think so. Do nice guys finish last? yes. Why? Because the so called "winners" are stuck in loveless relationship because they hook up with the wrong people feeling like they have no other choice. I'm starting to think that the nice guy is just smarter then the average male and doesn't want to be in a relationship that is doomed to fail.
woodsman, ya got it wrong on some parts- I have seen one constant when it
comes to the whole dating scene (esp with 'Nice Guys')... it's so many
'Nice Guys' tend to get flustered and wanna lash out at the ladies when the
power of attraction lies within us (I am a 'Recovering Nice Guy'). It's
easy to blame the ladies for not choosing you, but you do have a part to
play in this as well, my man. Remember that there are more girls than guys
now, plus, the ladies, just like us, do make boneheaded decisions on who to
date and mate. I'm not bussin ur balls, I'm telling it the way I see it.
I've gone down that same path as you have, I've made pretty much the same
declarations as you, with the same frustrations as you. There's an old
saying- Bring more to the table than ur appetite. I believe that that's
what a whole lotta NG's are guilty of... Expecting the ladies to see thru
you to what you consider 'real' about you- the ladies don't do that, bro...
I often tell ppl who have trouble getting dates to look over themselves,
and make the necessary adjustments. In ur case, you're on the right track
with a lot of the things ur saying. Could it be that you are just reaching
in ur attempts to get women to date you? Could it be that you aren't as
confident, aren't as real as you hope to be? My only advice to you is that
you take what I'm saying to heart and don't dismiss this. I been where you
are (I'm single- ended a bad relationship with a damaged girl- from my Nice
Guy-ness (hoping to change a bad girl thinking she could break good), and
not demanding more from myself in this area, settling for a psycho). Plus,
I see so much potential in you- all ya really need to do is just get to
living- there's nothing wrong with you. I tend to feel for a lotta Nice
Guys, b/c they just end up bitter, when the key to their success, not only
in dating, but in life is already in them. Remember, only you have the
power and the actual right to change your life. Quit wasting time weeping
over girls who don't care about you- you see any of them chicks checking up
on you? 'Couse not. So why give them ANY power over your life.....
