I'm the booby prize 60

Katie

"Lower-status men shun marriage because they hope to gain more options as they gain status and rise into the ranks of the highly attractive."

Oh, absolutely! As a lower-status woman in the attractiveness hierarchy, no lower-status man will commit to me, despite the fact that I make the best of what nature gave me physically and mentally. I'm good enough to have sex with, but not good enough to invest in for a longer-term commitment, and I'm certainly no trophy. I'm the booby prize, the single woman the media forgets to write about - the woman that lower-status men pretend doesn’t exist as a viable partnership option. I know where I stand, but lower-status men do not.

From what I've witnessed, some lower-status men wake up to their self-delusions (perpetuated by television, movies and men's mags) about where they are in the attractiveness hierarchy aged 40. But too many don't, a cruel irony for lower-status women who are no longer able to have children at that age. They realise they're wasted years being manipulated by publishers and advertisers who want to make a quick buck out of their desperation to "upgrade" their lifestyles. Too many people have forgotten that men want women, and women want babies - which works well in monogamous marriages, but disasterously in a promiscuous climate. Why do women marry? So they can have babies and social status that comes from being married. So if lower-status men think their lot is unfair, think about it from the perspective of lower-status women. Your social status isn't affected by being a "bachelor" and you can satisfy your base urge for sex in a brothel, lower-status single women are way behind partnered women in social status and can satisfy their base urge for pregnancy in a...?

I'm a realist: I have 2 years left of fertility before it starts declining rapidly, and 40+ years left to more than likely meet a man. So I've decided to cut my losses and become a single mother. Not a popular thing to say, and a choice likely to result in much stigma. But, I think you'll see a lot of this among lower-status women in the next decade. Are women who choose single motherhood typically lower-status in the attractiveness hierarchy? Yes, it may be politically incorrect to say so, but they are. Despite what the media says, a low-status woman's choice to be a single mother almost always has nothing to do with her not wanting a man, and everything to do with low-status men not wanting her.

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