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Don't date out of pity. 12
posted Friday, 9 May 2008
Mamasan
Everybody's got issues, but not everybody's issues prevent them from being happy. Some people view their problems as things to overcome, while others use their problems as excuses. Not everyone has the same strengths.
The important thing to remember about that though, is that not everyone has the same weaknesses either. Two people with the same problems may handle them in totally different ways. When someone is handling them well, that deserves some recognition.
Jerks (male and female) and those who chase them are prime examples of people who are not coping well. It isn't wrong to consider either of them too weak to handle a loving, balanced relationship. We just have to be careful not to "cast the first stone". As I've mentioned several times before, there are many ways a person who is not a jerk can screw themselves and their partners. My dating life after my ex is full of such cases.
If you want to be able to compete with the jerks for the good women, then you'll need to be a better alternative. The same goes for women, even though most of them don't like to hear that. If the hoe next door is outgoing and approachable, and you are walking around constantly looking like you ate something sour, guess who's going to get more attention? for guys, if the jerks are asking women out, and you're hiding in your corner afraid of being rejected, guess who's going to get more attention?
Whatever issues you've got, deal with them. Then it's not too much to ask that any potential partners also be dealing effectively with theirs. Just don't date out of pity. If you find yourself saying to yourself that someone's treating your like crap is okay because they've got issues, you're in the wrong relationship.
Everybody's got issues, but not everybody's issues prevent them from being happy. Some people view their problems as things to overcome, while others use their problems as excuses. Not everyone has the same strengths.
The important thing to remember about that though, is that not everyone has the same weaknesses either. Two people with the same problems may handle them in totally different ways. When someone is handling them well, that deserves some recognition.
Jerks (male and female) and those who chase them are prime examples of people who are not coping well. It isn't wrong to consider either of them too weak to handle a loving, balanced relationship. We just have to be careful not to "cast the first stone". As I've mentioned several times before, there are many ways a person who is not a jerk can screw themselves and their partners. My dating life after my ex is full of such cases.
If you want to be able to compete with the jerks for the good women, then you'll need to be a better alternative. The same goes for women, even though most of them don't like to hear that. If the hoe next door is outgoing and approachable, and you are walking around constantly looking like you ate something sour, guess who's going to get more attention? for guys, if the jerks are asking women out, and you're hiding in your corner afraid of being rejected, guess who's going to get more attention?
Whatever issues you've got, deal with them. Then it's not too much to ask that any potential partners also be dealing effectively with theirs. Just don't date out of pity. If you find yourself saying to yourself that someone's treating your like crap is okay because they've got issues, you're in the wrong relationship.
