Avoid negative behaviors of low status males.

by Minger

Psychologically, humans are wired to attach more weight to negative information about someone than they do to positive info. That's why you can be having a great conversation with someone, and then all of a sudden you change your mind about them when they tell you in all seriousness that they were captured by a UFO. It didn't matter that for the past half hour, the person was displaying intellect and being articulate. You've now labeled them as a weirdo based on that one thing.

So it's massively important to avoid negative behaviors that are characteristic of low status males.

1. Approval seeking with your sentences such as ending them with phrases like "isn't it" or "right" should come out only sparingly in your conversation. Otherwise you sound weak willed. Right?

2. Trying to dominate. Instead just do it. Have a stronger psychological reality and mindset than anyone else. Assume people are there to follow you, because you are the shit. So, because of this assumption, of course you can ask people politely to do what you want them to do, rather than bossing them around. (It's interesting to observe military generals, who, despite what you see in movies such as Patton, are usually very polite when they get subordinates to do things.)

3. Being belligerent, either with women or with other men. The alpha male is able to stay calm under pressure and walk away when he needs to. Starting a fight is a sign that you're a man with low status. It also goes without saying that fighting in order to attract the affections of a woman is the ultimate form of approval seeking, which lowers your attractiveness.

4. Talking about what the other person wants to discuss, even if you find it boring. The alpha male only talks about what he wants to. Watch any alpha male in action (e.g., CEOs and politicians) and you will observe this phenomenon. When an alpha male is bored by someone, he won't hesitate to show his disinterest. Instead he'll look away and otherwise display his disregard.

Basically, don't give people your attention until they've earned it.

5. Trying to prove that you're smarter than the person you're talking to. When you look at leaders in corporate boardrooms or governor's mansions, you find that the best leaders are secure enough in themselves that they can listen to those who are more expert than they are.

6. Checking out every pretty girl you see. A man who's getting massively laid sees no point in doing this, so you too should communicate that you have no point either. As you stop being impressed by the hot bodies around you, watch the difference in reactions that you get from women. Watch how they start checking you out and wanting to prove themselves to you, rather than the other way around as it is with most guys.

Alpha males assume leadership-by this I mean that they act as if they are a natural leader in their setting. Therefore they don't care much about what others think. They do their own thing and don't seek approval. However, at the same time, they also offer a benefit to those who follow them, whether it's social status, excitement, or stimulating conversation.

Other people submit to the alpha's reality because either they want to (since alpha males talk about interesting topics) or because everyone else is paying attention to the alpha male.

The alpha male conversation style is interesting. Why is this? Easy! Because his conversational topics are things that he finds fascinating, and other people are sucked into his reality, so as a consequence they find them interesting too.

What's the easiest way to have stuff to talk about? It's simple. Have an exciting, well-balanced life, and you will naturally exude attractiveness to women. Keep busy with work, your social life, activities, and self-improvement. Don't just sit around playing video games. Go skydiving, take dance lessons, call an old friend and hang out with them. Basically, when your life is fun and interesting, you have tons of things to talk about with women.

And when you talk to women, lead the conversation. Captivate her attention.

As you work on your behaviors, you will also work on adopting the mindset of an alpha male. The first thing I notice that all alpha males have in common is that they assume people will follow their lead. They're not bossy.

Bossiness can quickly backfire because few people like to be ordered around. So do your thing and be passionate about it, and people will be drawn into your reality. Just act as if people will follow you, and believe that they will, and you'll find that they will want to adhere to your wishes.

This brings up an important point. Don't observe reality and then adjust yourself to it. Instead create your own reality. This means act as if events are the way you would like them to be.

Act as if you are a catch for any woman. Act as if pussy is no big deal to you, since it's not a big deal to men who get laid all the time. (Although you may not have much sex, if any, you still want to model the mindset of men who do.) Act as if all your manly desires are perfectly natural. Certainly you have no reason to apologize for or cover up your sex drive the way nice guys do!

Act as if you're not affected that much by what a woman thinks, since what youthink is a lot more important. Paradoxically, women will respect you a lot more for this.

A lot of guys get caught up in the trap of constantly wondering what a woman is thinking. "Gee, when she rubs her glass in response to me telling her a joke, does that mean she likes me?"* [* FYI, when a woman rubs a glass sensually, that is indeed an attraction signal.] Instead just realize that there's a horny, primal woman within her who wants to have mad, passionate sex with you. Just be an attractive guy, and relax and give her a chance to become attracted to you. If she doesn't accept the gift of your companionship, then that's her loss.

Be optimistic. Ever notice how the best athletes such as Deion Sanders, Michael Jordan, and Tiger Woods know that they will do well? Success comes from confidence. Assume you will succeed, and that increases the odds that you will. Assume that you are irresistible to women.

Be powerful and resolute. But at the same time, be natural and fun. Be a bit of a bad boy. Have a devilish smile on your face if you want. You're an exciting man who women should want.

Do what you please in life. Be true to your emotions. If you don't want to do something, then don't. Be honest with yourself.

What does this mean? If you want to give a homeless man some change, then do it. If you want to help an old lady across the street, then go for it. If you want to open doors for your girlfriend, do it. Just don't feel like you have to do any of those things because it's expected of you. Do things because you want to do them.

In the end, when you become an alpha male, the man who is true to himself, you will experience the happiest time of your life.

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