Attract dysfunctional women 61

I suspect that all women secretly prefer thugs. I hope I'm wrong.

I wouldn't say all, but you gotta wonder about the women who for no apparant reason, seem to or have admitted to despising guys who are nice or polite to them. Probably some combination of ego and arrogance as if the guy has the nerve to talk to them or like them. I guess if you like her and she doesn't like you, it's a cardinal sin to talk to her because she can't be bothered. Heck, if you don't necessarally like her but are just being courteous, seems like they take offense to that too.

There is a level of rudeness that is unwarranted and unnecessary, and said women are commonly very unappologetic for that. Well I say let them deal with the ramifications of what they say they'd rather have like the rest of the adults. When they come running for some coddling for someone to listen to their story about what drama some bad guy caused them, the guy they ignored or were rude to isn't required to give them a shoulder to cry on.

I doubt that even a dysfunctional woman is going to run from the extroverted jerk to the introverted jerk.

i have not yet met a woman who was not disfunctional.

It's really convenient to label women as "dysfunctional". It's an excellent victim mentality. You don't have to recognize what's wrong with you, and you can just put the blame on them. Works real nice, if you're happy with your life.

Or, if you'd like to change the way things are working for you, you could learn why women aren't attracted to you, and do something about it. Stop whining, stop blaming everyone else for your situation. Recognize how the world works and learn to work with it instead of against it.

I think you missed the point and went left. Way left.

People who treat people like shit ARE dysfunctional. They ARE the problem. They can't keep a partner because they crap on them even if that partner treats them decent. And I bet they think they deserve all the happiness in the world despite this. Are you really gonna sit here and defend that mentality? What is your problem?

No, I am not going to just fall in line and conform to the madness like you suggest. If "the way the world works" includes capitulating to somebody else's warped view that it's ok for them to screw over other people and folks are just supposed to take it, grin and bear it, then no thanks, I'll just be an outsider.

I have not yet met a man who is not dysfunctional. Every man I've encountered seems to have some sort of issue.

The end result for any jerk is social validation/praise via sex.

Everybody's got issues, but not everybody's issues prevent them from being happy. Some people view their problems as things to overcome, while others use their problems as excuses. Not everyone has the same strengths.

The important thing to remember about that though, is that not everyone has the same weaknesses either. Two people with the same problems may handle them in totally different ways. When someone is handling them well, that deserves some recognition.

Jerks (male and female) and those who chase them are prime examples of people who are not coping well. It isn't wrong to consider either of them too weak to handle a loving, balanced relationship. We just have to be careful not to "cast the first stone". As I've mentioned several times before, there are many ways a person who is not a jerk can screw themselves and their partners. My dating life after my ex is full of such cases.

If you want to be able to compete with the jerks for the good women, then you'll need to be a better alternative. The same goes for women, even though most of them don't like to hear that. If the hoe next door is outgoing and approachable, and you are walking around constantly looking like you ate something sour, guess who's going to get more attention? for guys, if the jerks are asking women out, and you're hiding in your corner afraid of being rejected, guess who's going to get more attention?

Whatever issues you've got, deal with them. Then it's not too much to ask that any potential partners also be dealing effectively with theirs. Just don't date out of pity. If you find yourself saying to yourself that someone's treating your like crap is okay because they've got issues, you're in the wrong relationship.